It’s Friday morning. As soon as I check my phone, I see a text message that simply says:
I say yes. We pick a time. My day is set.
I find that more often than not, guys are hesitant to refer to any of their friends as their best friend. I can’t think of any possible good reason why this should be the case. I remember that when I was younger, hearing someone refer to me as his best friend was like a badge of honor. That, somehow, through all the turmoil we went through in our youth, we decided that one person had sat in the foxholes with us more than others. That person understood us in ways that others didn’t.
Then something happened. The term best friend became the tumbleweed rolling through the ghost town of our social lives. This began in middle school and passed on right through to the college years. This isn’t to say that I didn’t have good friends during those days. Sure, I had friends. I had a lot of good friends. Maybe there was something about us needing to grapple with our hormones and the way they changed how we related with other people, which made us uncomfortable to relate too strongly to our friends. The best friend was gone. Maybe, it was never coming back.
Then, a few years ago, I was hanging out with a friend of mine—who by the way, referred to at least a few of her friends as her best friends—when I told her that I had to be home at a certain time because my roommate and I had planned on binge watching a show together. My friend laughed and said, “Awww. You’re in a bromance.” It was the first time I heard the term, so I didn’t really know how to take her remark. But the more I thought about it, the more I realized she was right. Besides having a television show that we watched together, my roommate and I also had a slew of inside jokes and other quirks that we shared.
Nowadays, I can say that I have a few friendships that would qualify as bromances. While the word might be comical to people for one reason or another, I essentially look at these friendships as not necessarily being better, or more important than other friendships, but in some ways are more specific. There are friends I particularly meet up with when I write, friends I meet up with for concerts, friends I go to sporting events with, and friends who are my default I don’t really feel like going out, but we’re going to meet up for a drink anyway friends. The list goes on and on.
So now, when people joke about my friendship with someone being a bromance, I admit it with pride. All my friends are special to me, but it is great to know that there are friends that I can rely on for particular things. If you look closely at your friendships, I’m willing to bet there are some that you hold in higher regard than others. These can be for specific reasons. There might be particular hobbies you share, activities you normally do together, or you may just see eye-to-eye in a particular way that you don’t with everyone else. Whoever your bromances are with, and for whatever reasons you might have them, just consider yourself lucky that you do.