• On Being Single

    I’ve never been the kind of person who does a lot of dating. I’ve only ever been in two serious relationships. For most of my life, I was quiet and awkward in crowds and way too scared to take chances. I didn’t put myself out there. At the same time, ...
  • Taking Risks

    I used to have a list a mile long of things that I swore I would never do. It included things like eating Brussels sprouts, riding rollercoasters, talking to cute people, and skydiving. I don’t know if I ever stated so explicitly, but going to a concert by myself would ...
  • The Trouble With Comparison

    No matter who you are, where you live, what language you speak, or how you were brought up, we all have the same ability to feel and be felt by the people around us. It’s our perspective that’s different—it’s shaped entirely by personal experiences, and can vary wildly even among ...
  • Idolization and Dehumanization of Celebrities

    By now, most of you have probably seen the interview that Cara Delevingne did with Good Morning Sacramento, but just in case you missed it: I knew this whole thing was a disaster before it was even over, but it’s that special kind of disaster that you just can’t look ...
  • Challenging Negativity

    I’m sure you’ve all heard someone in your life tell you, man, I hate people. I hate that phrase. It always gets me frustrated the second it leaves someone’s mouth, and it takes every bit of self-restraint in my body not to blurt out something trite; you haven’t met everyone ...
  • Let’s Talk About Misophonia

    I figure it’s safe to assume most of you are wondering: What the hell is misophonia? Well, my friends, you have come to the right place. Let’s chat. The word misophonia literally means “the hatred of sound.” It’s believed to be a neurological disorder, and it causes negative emotions (such ...
  • The Danger Of Disregarding Teenagers

    It’s just a phase. When you were between the ages of thirteen and eighteen, you probably heard this at least once a week, and if you were anything like me, it set your fucking teeth on edge. What your parents meant when they said that, was that what we felt ...
  • Compromise: How To Know When Enough Is Enough

    I’ve been thinking a lot about compromise lately. In my life so far, I have mastered the art of compromise—it’s permeated almost everything I do. I go out of my way not to make noise. I agree with things I don’t agree with, or state no opinion at all, in ...
  • Listening To Everyone: How Do You Make It Stop?

    “You’re such a good listener.” I literally cannot tell you how many times people have told me this. Friends, family members, strangers—countless people in countless situations after telling me countless stories. I used to think this was a good thing. I was the one people went to when they needed ...
  • What I Learned From Starting New Stages

    When you’re in a bad place in your life, mornings are delicate things. Lovely, well-adjusted people have told me dozens of times that mornings are blessings. That a new morning means you made it through yesterday, and now you have a chance to do it again. I know they mean ...