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    By Shelby Bowen — We’ll start with a scenario: you’re at a party. You came with a good friend, but you don’t really know anyone else that’s there. In the middle of a completely light-hearted conversation, you refer to a stupid situation that you experienced at work as “retarded” and ...
  • Befriending Your Fear

    I’ve never really considered myself a fearful person. I was always willing to take chances as a kid—jumping from swings onto unfolded cardboard boxes, learning how to do a front flip on the trampoline, explaining my elaborate make-believe games to friends. With those small steps into the unknown, however, there ...
  • How To Help Someone Who Is Having A Panic Attack

    When I was a teenager, I had no idea that panic attacks existed. It was never something that we covered in health class. If my friends were having them, they certainly didn’t talk about it. The word panic was one we definitely overused when we were feeling even the slightest ...
  • Why Do People Still Come Out?

    By Shelby Bowen — I remember when coming out could ruin your life. I remember when it could cost you friendships, a relationship with your family, your own peace of mind. I remember when coming out was an invitation for strangers to tell you exactly what they thought of your life ...
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    DEVALUING MENTAL DISORDERS: WHY IT’S IMPORTANT TO STOP

    I’m sure you’ve all heard the phrase “I’m so OCD” before—probably in regards to how someone likes for their books to be color-coded or for their silverware to be in the same place all the time. You’ve probably used it this way before, too. I used to all the time. ...
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    There’s Always Someone Else

    As of 2013, there were an estimated 7.125 billion people on this Earth. That’s 7.125 billion separate lives existing all at once, meshing together into a web that intersects in a million different places. 7.125 billion different strands of DNA. 7.125 billion potential stories. When we find one person out ...
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    When Your Hobby Becomes More Than Just A Hobby

    For the last three years, every November, I have walked into National Novel Writing Month with a blank document, an idea, and about a metric ton of please-let-this-year-be-THE-year. If you’ve never heard of NaNoWriMo before, the concept is simple: writing 50,000 words within the month of November. That’s 1,667 words ...
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    WHAT WE NEED IN LGBTQIA MEDIA: REPRESENTATION VS. TROPES

    When I think of movies that feature a gay relationship, I think of cool, aesthetic tones and wide shots paired with extreme close-ups. I think of long, drawn-out scenes of two boys staring at each other from across a locker room with no dialogue and very little background music. I ...
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    You Are No One’s Mystery Novel: An Open Letter To Teenage Girls

    When dating first started to become a thought in my mind, the only advice I could ever find was what not to do. Don’t wear your emotions on your sleeve, don’t be boring, don’t make him carry the conversation, don’t talk too much, don’t act too desperate, don’t be too ...
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    What You Don’t Have To Do In Your Twenties, Despite Popular Opinion

    Full disclosure: this article was going to be about things that you should do in your twenties, up until about one minute before I started writing it. I was going to talk about finding yourself and learning not to settle, and figuring out exactly what it is that makes you ...