I don’t know about you, but when I was little, I had this glamorous idea of being an adult. You obviously didn’t have someone telling you what to do, you didn’t have to go to school, and you could go to bed whenever you wanted. Who wouldn’t want that? Well, someone forgot to tell me that being an adult is not all it’s cracked up to be.

Being a new college graduate or in your twenties, like so many of us know, is not the easiest thing to be. You’re broke, probably still living with your parents, and your job may not be what you want right now. We all want our lives to be perfect right now, at least that’s what the movies told us would happen. How wrong we all were to trust Hollywood!

We may not have someone telling us what to do all day anymore, but sometimes that would be nice since that would be easier than trying to figure our lives out! For most of us, we have no clue what we’re doing. The weekly or daily panic attacks are signs that we worry about every move we make, thinking that it could be one huge mistake that stays with us for years to come. In the long run, though, this is exactly the wrong way to look at it.

This time in our lives could actually be the best, that is, if you change your perspective. For example, your job may suck now, but that doesn’t mean it will be like that forever. Look at everything that is going wrong now as a stepping-stone to how much better it can be later.

As they say, “Rome was not built in a day,” so we shouldn’t expect our lives to be, either. Instead of stressing out about everything, focus on what is going right. It will do you no good to focus on what you don’t have anyway!

How you do this when everything seems to be terrible is an interesting question, but there are ways. Like, if you have no other groceries in the house/apartment than dessert, treat yourself! Your parents aren’t there to stop you, so why the heck not eat ice cream, cake, or cookies for dinner! Or, if it’s the middle of the month and you can’t go out because you’re waiting on your paycheck to come in, bond with your roommates and have a night in, you can all celebrate the broke factor together.

And for now, take every day slowly. You don’t have to figure things out right now. Each person has their own time where everything clicks, and if it’s not right now, it’s coming.